Shame, the darkest emotion

Shame, the darkest emotion

Art work by Kalok Ng Email: thekalokng@gmail.com Shame is the darkest emotion as it makes us feel like everything about us is wrong.  The difference between shame and guilt is that guilt tells us that our behaviour was wrong, where shame tells us that as a person we...
Becoming confident after abuse.

Becoming confident after abuse.

If you have been abused as a child or as an adult, you might feel worthless.  If as a child you underwent neglect, rejection or abuse from your parents, confidence might be harder to find.  A child who has experienced verbal abuse and neglect will begin to believe...
How placing judgement hurts you

How placing judgement hurts you

Human minds organize things and people to process information quicker. The downside to this is categorizing people leads to stereotyping. The key is to be aware of your own stereotypes so that you don’t overlook other valuable information. The more often we...
Forgiving yourself

Forgiving yourself

If you grew up being neglected or criticized, you might have the false belief that everything you do is wrong. You might believe that you have to be perfect to be loved. If you have the painful habit of blaming yourself for everything, these pointers might help. 1. Be...
Mental Health Spa Day

Mental Health Spa Day

People are often intimidated by seeing a psychologist, counsellor or therapist because they think that they don’t need one or because of the stigma attached to mental health. Psychologists and other counsellors are there to provide a safe space that is free of...