Human minds organize things and people to process information quicker. The downside to this is categorizing people leads to stereotyping. The key is to be aware of your own stereotypes, not to overlook other valuable information. The more often we judge others, the more often we judge ourselves. This can lead to social anxiety and self-consciousness. Here is how you can help yourself.

1. Be aware of your judgements

Are you judging because…

A. Something about the other person represents a part of yourself that you don’t like?

B. The other person reminds you of someone who hurt you?

C. The other person represents something that you want to be?

2. Speak kindly to yourself and others

Self-compassion means that you speak kindly to yourself. You acknowledge your feelings and take the time to learn from them.  Speak kindly to both yourself and other people.

3. Is the judgement destructive or constructive

Destructive judgement is harmful and says that you or the other person are not good enough. Constructive judgement helps you or the other person grow and become better.

4. Reframe destructive judgement

Everyone is a product of their genes and their environment. People act and react to you based on how they perceive you and their own past experiences. Having this in mind helps you to view others objectively rather than critically.


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