by Dr. Monica Borschel | Jan 6, 2021 | Children, EMDR, Love
When Andrew was little, he would often try his best to get his parent’s attention. He would joke, perform, clean, get good grades, and do anything else that he thought would make his parents see him. Andrew was too young at the time to realize that his parents...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Dec 30, 2020 | Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Family, Self-Esteem, Stress, Trauma
Brianne couldn’t sleep. Her mind was replaying her week at work. Her new supervisor had excluded her from meetings, spread rumors behind her back and often made devaluing comments to her. Brianne started to replay the conversations they had had together. ...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Dec 23, 2020 | Children, Parenting, Self-Esteem, Teenagers
Ricky struggled in school for most of his life. In primary school, he would battle to focus on what the teacher was saying; he felt like homework was boring. His parents would often be disappointed when he would bring home his report card. Ricky felt his confidence...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Dec 16, 2020 | Divorce, Mediation
In this Map the Maze Podcast with Sala Sihombing, we talk about why one must remain calm during the mediation process. We also share tips about preparing for a divorce mediation and what you can do during and after.” Listen to the Podcast here: How to Stay Calm...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Dec 9, 2020 | Abuse, Anxiety, Emotions, PTSD, Self-Esteem, Trauma
Lori grew up with nice clothes, in a beautiful home and had all of her physical needs met. When Lori was a small child, she was told repeatedly by her parents that she was stupid and that she would never amount to much. She was neglected, shouted at and devalued to...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Dec 2, 2020 | Divorce, Mediation, Podcasts, Relationships
The process of separating and divorcing can be overwhelming. For some people, separation and divorce can feel like their life is over. Although we may not think it divorce and separation might cause people to go into survival mode; leading to fight, flight,...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Nov 25, 2020 | EMDR, PTSD, Therapy & Psychology, Trauma
Angela would get anxious hours before she had her EMDR therapy. She would often walk into her therapists’ rooms with sweaty hands. The anticipation of the EMDR treatment made her adrenaline go up. She felt safe with her therapist, but the unpredictability of the...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Nov 18, 2020 | Divorce, Grief, Marriage, Mediation, Podcasts
Divorce can be a confusing and painful time. Everyone reacts differently depending on what might be going on in their life at the time, different attachment styles and how the relationship ended can all be contributing factors. For some people, separation and divorce...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Nov 11, 2020 | Anxiety, Grief, Stress, Therapy & Psychology
Lori woke up in a cold sweat, heart racing. What had she been dreaming about? She had been waking up at 3 a.m. every night for the last week. Had she gotten everything ready, was everything organized, was she missing anything? These questions seemed like noise in...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Nov 4, 2020 | Emotions, Marriage, Relationships, Stress
Andrew came home in a huff. How could his new admin, Rita, be such an idiot? She had messed up his busy schedule, and now he was late for dinner with his wife, Suzy. Suzy was upset because she felt like Andrew was late because he didn’t value her time and...