by monicaborschel | Aug 21, 2019 | Emotions, Psychology, Self-Esteem, Stress
Lashing out can happen for multiple reasons. Sometimes the person who lashes out feels a temporary release of stress and anger, but might later feel embarrassed or ashamed. Lashing out can be a response to past trauma, a self-protective response or a way to control...
by monicaborschel | Aug 14, 2019 | Anxiety, Depression, Relationships, Trauma
If you are in a relationship with someone who has been abused, it can be confusing and sometimes frustrating. If the person has not been able to resolve the abuse in their mind, they might act in ways that push you away. They might lash out when they are feeling...
by monicaborschel | Aug 7, 2019 | Emotions, Relationships, Self-Esteem
After being abused by someone you thought you could trust, you might have a difficult time trusting your judgement. I often hear people say, “How could I have been so stupid?” One of the reasons that people find it so difficult to trust their judgement...
by monicaborschel | Jul 31, 2019 | Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Psychology
People often confuse resilience with “being tough” or “toughing it out.” A misconception is that you either have resilience, or you don’t. Sometimes, circumstances such as poverty lead to survival stress, which makes it more challenging...
by monicaborschel | Jul 24, 2019 | Emotions, Parenting, Psychology
Divorce is stressful. It can be even more stressful if a judge court orders psychological evaluation for custody. The order usually happens in high conflict divorces where the divorcing parents are unable to agree about custody outside of court or in mediation....
by monicaborschel | Jul 17, 2019 | Depression, Relationships, Trauma
At the beginning of a relationship or in dating, people usually put their best face forward. The attraction might be high, and the physical aspects of the relationship might overshadow logic. In other cases, people might believe that they are not loveable and...
by monicaborschel | Jul 10, 2019 | Depression, Emotions, Relationships
Emotional abuse is not as apparent as other forms of violence, however, it can be just as damaging. Emotional abuse can also start later in a relationship, after the abuser has groomed the person that they want to control. Grooming starts with small abuses to see how...
by monicaborschel | Jul 3, 2019 | Emotions, Relationships, Self-Esteem
It is probable, that at one point in a person’s life, they will feel stuck or lost. Feeling stuck or lost can be a result of a major life event, loss or a trauma. There might be times when we wonder if we are on the right path. Throughout history and time, there...
by monicaborschel | Jun 26, 2019 | Relationships, Self-Esteem
We live in a world with instant validation or instant invalidation, thanks to social media. If we compare ourselves to what we see on social media, we might feel bad about ourselves or our own lives. The key here is to remember that people only post what they want...
by Dr Monica Borschel | Jun 18, 2019 | Depression, Emotions, Grief, Self-Esteem
Life includes a certain amount of suffering. Some of the sufferings include rejection, failure, loss and trauma. When we are going through a difficult time, it can be hard to see the light. When we are depressed or sad, we can only remember the depressed or sad...
