How can I calm down my child?

How can I calm down my child?

The beauty of children is that they seem to be living in the moment.  They really feel their feelings and go all-in with the present.  The downside to this can be immense emotions that your child doesn’t know how to manage.  Sometimes this can look like a temper...
The problems with isolation

The problems with isolation

Human babies need caregivers because they are born helpless.  This first bond between caregiver and baby develops our attachment system, which is linked to our nervous system. We learn as babies and then toddlers how to get our needs met through others.  As we grow...
What is EMDR, and how does it work?

What is EMDR, and how does it work?

EMDR EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.  In 1987, Francine Shapiro went for a walk. She noticed that as she was thinking about an upsetting memory, her eyes darted back and forth.  After the spontaneous eye movements, the thoughts seemed to...
The compassionate part of grief

The compassionate part of grief

Grief and Loss When Zoie lost her mom, she felt a deep void inside of her.  She struggled to get out of bed in the morning.  Her mother had been the one that she could always turn, too, when she was fighting or stressed.  She couldn’t imagine holidays and...
Automatic pilot

Automatic pilot

Joey As an intern in the emergency room, Joey was always on autopilot.  He felt like he ran from room to room trying to manage crises, follow protocol, and stay out of the way of the doctors.  He loved what he did, but he was always going.  He didn’t have time to...
The many faces of PTSD

The many faces of PTSD

Johnathon Johnathon was a high functioning hedge fund manager.  He was successful and seemed to be doing well in his life except for in his relationships.  As a child, his father would hit him, and he could never predict when the violence would occur.  Whenever...
You don’t need to prove your worth

You don’t need to prove your worth

Angela often worried about what others thought of her.  Was she pretty or smart enough?  Criticism of any sort seemed to send her in a tailspin.  At work, she compared herself to her colleagues and wanted to make sure that she outperformed them.  She would stay at...
Resentment is killing my relationship

Resentment is killing my relationship

Ken felt like he did everything in his relationship.  He works long hours to provide enough money to support his family.  When he comes home from work, his wife, Sherie, is out with her friends, at the gym or otherwise doing her own thing.  Ken usually comes home...
Before you break up with your therapist…

Before you break up with your therapist…

For the most part, therapists want what is best for your mental health.  This means that they have to challenge your negative thought processes and behaviours that are not working out for you and your relationships.  They might ask you deeply personal questions that...