by Dr. Monica Borschel | Jan 22, 2023 | Divorce
Getting a divorce should never be an easy decision. It can be an even harder decision if children are involved. You might be in a situation where the conflict is so high your children want you to get a divorce. Conflict can be traumatic and stressful for children and...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Jan 19, 2023 | Divorce
A divorce might be one of the biggest challenges you have ever faced. Divorce can feel like you are starting from scratch. You might feel stigmatized or like a failure. Your friends and family try to be helpful, but they don’t always understand. As a result, you...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Jan 14, 2023 | Dating, Relationships
When people date, they usually put their best foot forward. They want to be liked back. Dopamine, the neurotransmitter that is linked to reward, is high. This leads to feeling euphoria and excitement to see the other person. However, over time the excitement fades,...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Nov 22, 2022 | Emotions, Family, Forgiveness, Relationships, Self worth
Placing Blame – When something negative happens, people often look to place blame on themselves or others. If you can blame yourself, then perhaps you can avoid the same mishap from happening again. If you blame someone else, it removes some of the heavy feelings of...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Oct 28, 2022 | Trauma
Trauma therapy is for those struggling with hypervigilance, anxiety, agitation, relationship struggles, past abuse, grief, loss, custody, divorce, and lack of trust in themselves and others. Past abuse and trauma can make us feel insecure and unsafe. It can also harm...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Oct 6, 2022 | Dating, Love, Marriage, Relationships
What is a dating coach? As a dating coach, my role is as a guide that helps clients understand themselves, their attachment styles, and their values to find the right person. The right person will likely share similar core values to yourself. For example, if you value...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Apr 19, 2022 | Abuse, Grief, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Self worth, Self-Esteem, Trauma
Suzanne had been at the height of her career when she met her ex-husband, Mark. She felt like she had finally made it. She was loved by many and had financial security. On the other hand, Mark had just retired from a lucrative finance job. When they met, Mark was...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Mar 8, 2022 | Pet Loss, Trauma
In this series of the Behaviour Sleuths we investigate pet loss. If you have experienced pet loss or may be preparing to lose a pet, please join us to discuss research, personal experiences and resources. Episode 1 In this first episode join us as Monica shares...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Feb 17, 2022 | Love, Relationships, Self worth, Self-Esteem
Elizabeth sat on her therapist’s couch, trying to answer questions about her life as a teenager. She had dabbled in drugs, ran away, used men for her own ends and chronically shoplifted. Elizabeth was nothing like that now. Currently, she was a successful lawyer...
by Dr. Monica Borschel | Feb 4, 2022 | anger, Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Self worth
Andrew walked through the busy streets of Hong Kong, waiting for someone to bump into him. As he walked through Central, people would look at their phones as they walked into him. He tried not to get angry, but the tension would build until he would snap and...