Matters I can help with
There are a range of issues that I can assist with including:
Overcoming abuse and trauma
Sometimes when abuse and trauma happen repeatedly, a false belief of worthlessness and unlovability is created. Even as adults, they can look back on their childhood and understand that the abuse was in the past, even if it still feels real in the present. As much as the mind might tell the abused that they are safe now, their nervous system is wired to be hypervigilant to keep them safe.
Divorce and relationship break-ups
Divorce can be a confusing and painful time. For some people, relationship break-ups, separation and divorce can feel like their life is over. Everyone has a different experience and reacts differently depending on what might be going on in their life. Different attachment styles and how the relationship ended can all be contributing factors.
In the early days of a relationship there is excitement, passion and admiration. Once a relationship is well-established and there are increased responsibilities such as work, children, grief and loss or health issues, tension within the relationship can occur. If this tension or conflict remains unresolved, it can be difficult for couples to re-establish their connection.
Having children and understanding how to parent are two totally different things. It becomes even more challenging when a divorce or relationship break-up occurs and you’re now having to navigate co-parenting.
The mediation process can be a very stressful time. Life Coaching can assist you in preparing for divorce mediation and help you put strategies in place for what you can do during and after.
Everyone feels anxiety from time to time. However, sometimes anxiety can begin to make our life quite uncomfortable and can cause conflict in our relationships. Anxiety is deeply rooted in our nervous system but can be managed and soothed.
Finding your purpose
A clear purpose and direction in life can help restructure even difficult crises into opportunities for growth and renewed motivation, and plays an important role in emotional wellbeing. If we do not have a meaningful purpose that guides us each day and over the course of our lives, making important decisions, resolving internal and external conflicts, planning for the future, choosing friends and partners, and making sense of suffering can become difficult.
Impostor syndrome refers to an internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be, you feel like a phony and as though at any moment everyone around you is going to realize you’re a fraud and you don’t belong where you are. It can affect anyone no matter their social status, work background, skill level, or degree of expertise. Some of the common signs of imposter syndrome include self-doubt, an inability to realistically assess your competence and skills, fear that you won’t live up to expectations and sabotaging your own success.
Bullying is when people repeatedly and intentionally use words or actions against someone or a group of people to cause distress and risk to their wellbeing. These actions are usually done by people who have more influence or power over someone else, or who want to make someone else feel less powerful or helpless.
Workplace bullying is verbal, physical, social or psychological abuse by your employer (or manager), another person or group of people at work. Bullying is not the same as conflict between people (like having a fight) or disliking someone, even though people might bully each other because of conflict or dislike.
Managing relationships well both at work and at home is important for emotional wellbeing. Relationship difficulties in one area of our life impacts on our ability to relate effectively in the other. Challenging workplace relationships can create a very stressful environment. If you’re experiencing difficult relationships at work, life coaching can assist you in putting strategies together and finding solutions to facilitate better communication, enhance workplace harmony and assist you in reaching your career and other work-related goals.
Navigating your career pathway
Not knowing how to navigate your career can be a cause of major stress and existential questioning. We also all measure career-related success differently, whether it’s our salary, becoming a manager, getting a promotion or the impact we’re having.
Overcoming sports and performance anxiety
Past rejections, traumas and perceived failures can block us from reaching our full potential. Brainspotting is a powerful tool that allows you to overcome your sports and performance anxieties in order to compete at your highest level.